I met my partner in
March 2004. I knew he had two children but they lived with their
mother and he had them every other weekend, things were great and the
children were OK around me and I with them.
In August 2005 we had a phone call
to ask us to collect the children from social services which we did and
they have lived with us since, what a shock!!
I am 22 years old and am a
qualified nanny so at first it wasn't too bad as I treated it almost like
a job plus my partner had taken time off work to get them settled in.
But things changed!
Not only had I had to come to
terms with two boys aged 8 and 9 it was also decided that I should look
for term time work so I could do the childcare as my partner earns the
most money.
My partner's mother is a nightmare
~ she at first couldn't get enough of the children and they were with her
for most of the days but now the novelty has worn off and we can hardly
get her to baby sit for a couple of hours!
She seems to be jealous of me
looking after the children and has done everything she can to break me and
my partner up even as far as causing a massive argument at our recent
engagement party. My partner is a peace maker he doesn't want to
upset me or his mother and so we have had to put wedding plans on hold as
she doesn't even want me to exist never mind marry her son and we just
know she will mess up the wedding day in some way.
One of the boys is not my partners
child but as they are brothers we had no choice but to take him in also.
The younger one (my partner's) is a dream he does as you ask most of the
time and is just happy to be with his dad, The elder one is a nightmare he
answers back constantly, is rude, has no respect for anything or anybody
and has tantrums when he can't get his own way which have included
throwing a bin across the room and trying to pull radiators off the wall!
We have tried recently spending
whole days with him (whilst the younger one has been with my parents)
giving him 100% attention, and whatever he has wanted but still he answers
back and nothing is good enough!
I am worn out from trying to keep
every one happy and i feel emotionally drained, if i didn't love my
partner so much I would have left months ago.
I miss the time we used to spend
as a couple and feel that the days are now a blur, am I being selfish
wanting time on our own?
I am 22yrs old and I feel that
life as I knew it has ended.
Is this how its going to be for
the next 10 years?
