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In May 2003 I met my
husband who had his son living with him for one week. He had been
split up from his ex girlfriend for several months. I have two daughters
of my own and took on my stepson who had just turned 4 at the time.
I have always treated him as my own and so have my daughters.
His mother who is a heroin
addict and has been for 18 years had three other children by a different
father and she gave all those away as well as they were out of control.
She saw my stepson in the September of 2003 and when he was returned
demanded money for drug dealers which my husband refused to give as she
had already blackmailed £20,000 out him! She never saw my stepson
again or got in contact no xmas cards, birthday cards, letters or phone
calls for 15 months! In that time we got married moved home and
generally got on in a normal family way.
We went to court to get a
residency order for my stepson to live permanently with us which she never
answered or turned up at court, then when she found out we'd got married
she crawled out of the gutter still an addict. I must tell though
when I first met my stepson I checked his head for 666 he was naughty,
disobedient, destructive, rude, he still wasn't toilet trained at 4. He
didn't know how to eat at a table with a knife and fork he had no road
knowledge at all or aware of dangerous environments, for example plug
sockets, fires.
He had been sleeping on a
floor and not in a bed and had spent the past few months caring for
himself whilst his so called mother was trying to get drugs. I
supported him learnt him right from wrong and got him a proper bedtime
routine and he began school. He will never be an angel, what boys
are, but he was a normal polite boy.
Then we got a letter from
her solicitor wanting contact. It was to be for two hours at a
contact centre on her own to get to know him again. He is still only
5 at this stage, my husband took him and she asked if he could pick him up
in an hour as she had stuff to do!!! He went the second month to see
her for 2 hours and her sisters turned up with her other
children and her other kids whom one is now in foster care.
He couldn't cope with it he
turned into the child from hell. He told me I was just a bitch who
looked after him, he wet his bed, nightmares, stabbed a kid at school!
So we stopped contact then CAFCASS got involved! Wonderful we
thought someone on our side, God were we mistaken! The reports has
been wrong and extremely one sided. The CAFCASS reporter has seen my
stepson for an entire one hour in a year and knows what's best for him!
He was going to a different contact centre that was supervised near where
his mother lives as she was too ill to travel being a drug addict!
It meant we had to pay for petrol and parking and take my two daughters on
a 40 minute trip and then try and find something to do for two hours that
didn't cost money because we haven't got any.
We complied and did this and
she was a perfect mother (because she was being supervised). CAFCASS
has now let her have unsupervised contact at her sisters who we don't
trust, she has now had one of her other children back and we didn't
understand why but we now know she is having another baby with the local
drug dealer!
That will be five children
she has had born to heroin! What is up with this country! My
stepson only had four teeth as he had to have them all taken out as they
had crumbled away due to lack of dental hygiene, calcium and inadequate
feeding eg chocolate, biscuits and coke most meals when he lived with her.
She is still doing this when we have no sugar in our house at all and are
doing everything we can to stop him having false teeth by the time he is
12.
She has him for four hours
now once a month his first time he saw her for ten minutes then went to
play on his cousins computer alone, the second time he went shopping for
15 minutes then went on his cousins computer alone, this week his brother
her son who has a police record for burglary of cars, factories and houses
and is a know shoplifter took him shopping!!!!
We just don't know what to
do, CAFCASS are useless, school have been brilliant because his behaviour
for about two weeks when he has seen her is terrible. He is on the
point of being excluded and he's only six.
We've got an appointment to
see our solicitor in a couple of weeks but I'm going slowly insane and
want to commit murder! Please, please, please help!!!
