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I have been with my partner
for nearly two years, not a long period of time but we have been good
friends for many years. I saw him go through the breakdown of his
marriage, and as a friend he did confide in me. At the time I was in
another relationship and encouraged him to go to counselling with the Ex
to see if they could come to some agreement with regards to their
children.
They went their separate
ways and myself and him grew closer, and now are very happy living
together. They have three beautiful children who I have known for years
and they always spent time with me, I felt like the cool big sister, but
now his visitation rights dictated by his ex have been decreased. She only
entitles him to one day a week as it is, and now if I am present on that
particular day she will not let them come and see their dad.
I have respected this for
months, and left my own home to see friends or family while he could have
three hours with them, but then I thought Why Should I Leave My Own Home
To Accommodate HER Requirements!!! When I do see the children - which is
very rarely now - they have a fabulous time, but the eldest child has been
distancing herself away from her father and me, and it's now affecting the
perception of the other two children. I feel helpless in the
situation but continue to support my partner through it all.
He is devastated by all this
and the Parental Alienation is definitely occurring in this situation. The
Ex refuses to work, although all children are in full time education, my
partner is paying the legal requirements via CSA, and is now considering
going legal which is his last chance to enable him see his children. We
have found gifts we have given the children from Christmas, Birthdays and
Holidays in Charity Shops.
We seriously think she has
depression, and she has not Got Over It! It has been nearly three years of
their separation. We are aware she has back stabbed us with people we both
know, and we have had damage to our property when the Ex's Family have
been visiting. My partner is not even contacted when his children have
been put into hospital, had illness or if they have been off school, which
has been occurring frequently to keep the Ex company because she doesn't
work. I'm so pleased I've found this site and I hope I'm not the only
frustrated woman who thinks some of these EX's need psychological help!
