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I knew my partner before he
left his wife. I met him because he was a regular customer a my place of
work and we were always friendly towards each other but that was it. He
split up with his wife and I did not see him for a few months however when
he did return he was asking to contact me which did eventually happen. My
parents did not approve of the situation and told me to finish it
immediately which I just could not do. Anyway 6 months later we managed to
get a place of our own and we have been together ever since. It will
be 4 years this year we would have been together.
He has two boys and a
younger girl and luckily for me the kids have not been a problem. We see
then every weekend and they stay one night every week. His eldest son
plays football which includes training three nights per week and a game
every Saturday. Similar with the other boy although not as frequent.
My partner takes them on
every occasion which is challenging to say the least. We have no children
of our own because he had a vasectomy before he left her and his claim is
that I knew before I got involved with him what his situation was...which
I agree. However that does not make it any easier for someone with
no children to handle.
He and his ex wife are not
divorced yet basically because he was left with the marital debt and has
made bankrupt as a result. We do not have any savings as all our money is
gone at the end of every month ~ in fact we sometimes don't have
enough to last all month.
Anyway his ex is very
intimidating and she is a lot older than me and my partner. She is
basically selfish and extremely lazy but she would have taken him back on
several occasions if he had wanted to. The kids always call the
house as does she always regarding something to do with the kids.
We went away for the weekend
only two nights recently and he still would not turn his phone off. I feel
it's quite a lot sometimes to live with but I know that he would lose
everything all over again if we split up and whenever we have had big rows
he uses his children against me!! Personally I think he is scared to
rattle her because of the kids and whenever I say something about this or
that which is bugging me he does not want to know, he will not talk about
it so basically I have to get on with it and keep my thoughts to myself.
I know in my heart I can
only do that for so long...I am actually scared of everything I might say.
I feel like he does not consider my feelings at times and I KNOW now all
this time later that I am certainly not his top priority and I am starting
to believe I never will be.
