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I have been married for 6
years and have been with my partner for eleven years in total. For
the first five years my husband had to hide from his violent alcoholic
ex-partner. He has 2 wonderful boys who have been through hell and
it would take years to go through all the details. He has never
turned his back on them once, much to my selfish disappointment he has
always put them first, which as we both agreed has caused problems.
His kids call me Mum and they are good to me.
I have kept records of the
ten years of abusive phone calls from the ex. At Christmas she would
insist on them staying with her but once Christmas Day came, she would
tell them to get out of her flat because she claimed their dad had let
them down and she had no money to buy them anything, because dad was
spending all of his money on his new women!
I was smart and I taped and
recorded every sick bit of abuse. She would call and say I hope if
you fall pregnant, I hope your baby will be deformed! I have an
incurable illness and she would call and say I hope you die of cancer!
When the children's Dad went into a coma, she refused to have her children
for a week, saying to me now you know what its like to bring up kids on
your own?????
Bless those
kids.............they told ME everything was OK and not to worry.
One week before Christmas, we dropped the kids off to see their mum and
her flat was empty. She had sold and moved without telling them!
To this day we do not know where she is and neither do the kids. She
only calls once every three weeks to take them for breakfast for one hour.
I have just won a court case
as for ten years she has stalked me and threaten to stab me. It has
not been easy as the courts has guidelines and you cannot explain ten
years of mental abuse but the main thing is it is over. The courts
were great and now she has an open restraining order against her, together
with two years rehabilitation in the community. This means no more
calls from 7pm until 5am. The police's hands are tied but you have
to do it by the book. Sounds harsh but when your eight year old step
son says he cant sleep because his Mum has said she will cut out his
eyeballs when he is sleeping, you have to take action!
